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Once Upon A Time

heart shaped book

As many of you know that read my blog or Face book each week I have been working on a book. It doesn’t start with Once Upon a Time but it is a book that I hope will inspire others and has a little romance in there too. This process all began when my husband, Milo, joined a mentorship program so that he could focus on what he wanted to do and at the time he thought that was art. The only problem with his decision was he wasn’t thinking about his Multiple Sclerosis affecting him at random times throughout this year commitment.

As he was having difficulties with remembering to do the weekly assignments of watching videos, doing homework, listening to conference calls and watching interviews with others that were successful he asked for my assistance. I put on my weekly calendar when he needed to schedule to watch or listen to these wonderful, positive insights. I found myself looking over his shoulder if you will to listen in on this information.

This mentorship program was asking all the right questions, making you think about what it was you truly wanted to do with your life and what vehicle you wanted to do it through. It didn’t matter if you wanted to be a chef, musician, artist, writer; screenwriter, photographer, sculpture, wood worker or what have you. It was all to encourage those that were creative to stop talking about what they wanted and start doing what they wanted.

At first I focused upon my photography as I truly enjoyed taking pictures and trying to capture the beauty around me when I went anywhere. Then I went to a conference with these enthusiastic, positive, encouraging people and decided that photography though I love it, wasn’t the true place I wanted to throw my creativity at this moment. Then writing began to be my focus.

I had already started this web page and began showing off some of my photographs, writing my weekly blog posts and finding that what I was writing was more important to me than even my photographs. It allowed me to feel I could make a difference in others lives by sharing hope and giving a voice to what I had to say, giving my thoughts, encouragement and inspirations from living my life.

With that I started writing a book and I though at times this process has been one of fear, I have overcome those fears to continue on this process and not quit. The rough draft of my first book is done and now I’m in the editing phase. I can honestly say that through this process I have grown as a person, have gained confidence in my talents, and myself and though I have much to learn still, I look forward to the challenges ahead.

Soon I will be setting up my author web page and hope that you will choose to join me there as I move my blog to that website. I will continue to share my photographs as it’s still something I love to do and write my weekly blog as it gives me joy to write them, I will just be moving to my Lisa Ballan author website. I have already created a Lisa Ballan Author page on Face Book and you can always follow me on that too.

My point for this blog is to let you know of some changes ahead as I transition to my new focus but that I hope you will join me too. I also want to encourage you that no matter your dream there is always a way to begin by taking one small step and focusing on that small step each day or each week. Eventually you will get to your destination if you don’t give up. Hard work isn’t easy, but it is rewarding and being diligent with your schedule to push forward is always key to achieving any dream. You can do it too.

Leave a comment below if you have pushed for a dream or goal and succeeded. I’d love to hear what it is you are doing and how you did it. Share this with anyone you feel could benefit from this post. Have a blessed day!

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Imagine the Unimaginable

"Imagine Sign" in New York Central Park, John Lennon Memorial

“Imagine Sign” in New York Central Park, John Lennon Memorial

There are times when I sit and imagine things I wish to have happen in my life and sometimes those things seem so unimaginable or out of reach that I wonder why I want such big things. We are all able to dream and have vivid imaginations. Some of us use them for creating things others can enjoy or to help them and some of us use them to manipulate situations in our favor.

What do I mean by that? Well, there are always people in your life that live in what I call ‘excuse or victim land’. They spend there time dreaming up excuses as to why they can’t do something, have something or accomplish something. They have great imaginations and can conquer up all types of excuses. All that talent of creating excuses is going to waste. The same way you can create an excuse you can create a way to make it happen.

Here are some ways to realize you are preventing your own dreams from coming true or that you are using your dreams or imagination to manipulate others so you don’t have to pursue those dreams.

  • How often do you use the word “I”; I need, I want, I must have, I can’t do it, I don’t know how, I want you to…
  • Do you use the words “I’m to…”, I’m to old, I’m to sick, I’m to short, I’m to tall, I’m to lonely, I’m to busy…?
  • Do you use phrases like, “Someday I will, I probably should but, What if…?
  • Do you talk yourself out of things? I couldn’t possibly do that because, I’m sure if that was meant for me, I’m getting old and this is to much for me?

I can tell you from experience that it is easy to live in the excuse or victim land over stepping past the fear and objections and just start doing. Bad things can happen to anyone and if you play victim it’s a choice you made. If you keep making excuses as to why your dreams cannot be reached it’s also your choice. Some bad things take a bit to overcome, but know it’s still your choice if you don’t even try.

We as humans are not meant to hit some magical age and stop doing things we love to do. We aren’t meant to sit and stare at a TV watching other people make dreams happen and then say it’s to late for me now. We are also not meant to make others feel guilty for accomplishing their dreams when we gave up on our own.

Our imaginations can run away with us and can come up with some pretty awesome and unimaginable things we want to accomplish in our life. Tell fear to get out of the way and start working towards those dreams or goals. Those excuses you come up with are just fear talking and trying to keep you from doing what you truly wish in your life. So, why not, what do you have to lose? Step out in faith that your dream is possible and see what an amazing life you can create by going after it.

I hope you have a blessed week and will share this with anyone you feel could use it. Leave a comment below if you have overcome a fear or excuse and are working towards your unimaginable dream.

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Changes for the Better

Change - Positive & Negative

Change – Positive & Negative

As we live our lives sometimes we get into a rut and then something major happens and you begin making changes for the better, but at the time they are happening you are wondering is this the right choice for my life. We really have no way of knowing for sure except by how we feel we are being led to go, or as some say your gut instinct kicks in. A major change is happening in my life as we are moving from a home we have lived in for 17 years to some place new this week.

At first, moving was not something I looked forward to doing because there is all that packing, sorting, tossing, hook ups and turn offs, moving mail, updating accounts with a new address, changing business information and more. Now, I’m just excited for the change, the new place, the new area, the new flow or routine, new neighbors and friends and the possibilities that will develop.

I admit I was someone that after moving sometimes every six months as a child I just didn’t want to move very often as an adult. I wanted to plant myself some place and build memories, but honestly the memories go with you. As you clean out the closets, cabinets, drawers you locate things that make you laugh and things that can make you cry that were past memories. Glancing over those items I realized they are the things that made me who I am today.

You could say I didn’t want to move because I was afraid of change. We all are afraid of things, some very real and strong like spiders or snakes, and then there are other things that are unknown. It’s the unknown for me that I don’t like. I like to be informed, make decisions based on facts and then make a choice. When you are dealing with things you can’t control or don’t know much about it has a fear for some of us that is rather strong.

I hope you don’t let fear get in your way of making decisions that are changes for the better in your life. I know this step of moving for my family is a big one. Some other major changes can be jobs, relocating to a different city or state, having children, dealing with parents that need care, planning for a future or even buying a home. All of these things are considered highly stressful and major changes in people’s lives.

As you think about choices in your life, changes for the better, think about whether or not your hesitation is fear and get excited about the possibilities once you move forward.

If you feel this post would be inspiring to a friend or relative please forward it to them and if you have a way of dealing with changes for the better in a more positive light please leave a comment below. Have a blessed day!

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A New Life

A new life awaits you if you would only START DOING to get it!

A new life awaits you if you would only START DOING to get it!

Since I have started a mentorship program and started the art of DOING, I can say a new life awaits me. I’ve been busy taking my fears and facing them head on. I’ve been scheduling time to photograph, to write and to do my blog each week. I’ve taken time to learn new things and to expand my goals and dreams.

I’m in the process of editing my first book, which will fall into the category of Romance. I’m a hopeless romantic so I had to write in this genre. I want my books to not only be romantic but, to provide hope, show love, and even some inspiration to those readers that decide to follow me.

I’m learning new things with my photography and trying new things that I had not thought of before. I’m developing my craft one step at a time with one photo shoot at a time. I’m choosing to photograph the things I love, which makes it easier to totally be passionate about what images I choose to capture.

I’m also now getting to share the knowledge I’ve learned through writers, photographers and my mentor with others that need some guidance. This has been quite fun and rewarding as it makes me see that I know more than I did even a year ago about my new passions in life. Giving to others after receiving such blessings is only going to make this life an even better experience.

Overcoming fears has allowed me to be productive in areas that I never thought were possible before due to them. Now, I look at those fears and ask myself why not now? Why wait years before I choose to step forth even if I fall on my face and have to get up and try again? It’s exciting to know that when you go through this and conquer a fear here and a fear there that you were the only one holding you back from those dreams in the first place.

I say to you, when are you going to start doing and conquer your fears? When are you going to make your dreams the priority over those fears? The only one holding you back is you! Find out what kind of new life you could have by facing one thing each day that could step you forward in your life to what you ultimately want and how you can help others in the process.

Leave a comment on how you have conquered a fear or made a dream come true. If you know this would inspire someone else then please forward this blog to others. Thank you for reading. Have a blessed day!

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