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The Time is Now

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Do you have dreams you wish to achieve? Then the time is now to start working to get them. Time seems to move by so much faster now than I remember it doing when I was a child. I use to think school was going to take forever until summer break. Now, I’m trying to hold on to each day because it’s moving by so quickly.

We all have the same number of hours in a day, so what is holding you back from achieving those dreams you talk about or think about? If you work a job and come home each evening to prepare dinner and spend time with your family, what do you do with the few hours before you go to bed once the kids are put to bed? Do you watch the latest television show and just relax each evening?

What about your dream? Do you do anything towards it in the evenings? How about weekends? There is always an hour here or an hour there that you can eliminate one activity that doesn’t help you achieve your dreams for those that can. If you want to be a writer then start reading books about how to write if you aren’t sure where to start. If you want to learn to paint then take a class to learn some basics at the local college or from a local art teacher on weekends. If you want to take photographs then get out the manual to your camera and start learning what all the various knobs on the camera do and how they work together to create specific images. If you want to be a chef then practice some dishes on your family and have a little get together and see how they like them.

The only thing that is really stopping you is you. The time is the same for everyone and how you use it determines what you end up achieving in this life. Yes, things come up and you might have to skip that hour that one time but usually when something comes up its important like a sick child, a family vacation, overtime at work or even an illness you have to focus on. You can still do your dreams around the challenges.

You should start now while you can, because the next time you blink it may be five years later and you are wishing you had started because even if you did just a little bit towards that goal or dream you would have come far in five years. Let’s use weight loss as an example, you want to lose 100 pounds and it just seems so daunting of a goal, but if you focus on one to two pounds a week then that seems doable. If you don’t lose one or two pounds a week do you stop? No, of course not because even if you only lost two pounds a month it’s still 24 pounds in a year and 96 pounds in four years.

Writing a book can be the same way. You take the time to read how to get started and what you need to focus on and do. Then you sit down and take building a character as an example and doing a character sheet for the main character of a book idea that you have. Maybe next time you sit down you do another character perhaps the bad guy. Then the next time you sit down you might figure out what type of scene you want to start the book with or time period and do the research you need. Each time you sit down to work on it you get a little further and a little further. It might take you a couple years to complete the first book, but I assure you the second one won’t take nearly as long because now you know the process and you can utilize that time you have set aside better to achieve the next book.

So what is holding you back from achieving your dreams? The time is now to get started and make them a reality. You can do it!

If this post inspired you or you think would help someone else please share it or leave a comment below on how you are making the time you have now help you achieve your dreams. Have a blessed week!

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Let it Rain

Rainy weather

Monsoon season is upon us here in the desert so let it rain it’s only temporary. It seems the last week it has decided to grace us with these thunderstorms at night and when it does the next day is just a little bit cooler, the sky bluer, the dust settled, the smog gone and that is refreshing. When temperatures hit 110 or higher here in the desert you just want to turn the AC as cold as possible and hide out from the sun and heat.

My life at times feels like monsoon season with so many challenges hitting me all at once. The thunderstorms and lightning shows from the drama in the family, the health issues in the family, job issues, financial issues, goals not being met, dreams not coming true can be overwhelming. I’ve learned that if I’m doing all the right things in my life, working towards my goals daily, taking time for my family, doing the best I can with my job, juggling the finances to stay within what we make, and the challenges keep piling up then I’m under attack because I am focused on the right things.

Some people make changes in there lives and when things start to get tough or more challenges are dumped upon them they give up and go back to what they were doing, which was nothing exciting to make it all stop so they can function each day with little or not challenges. What kind of life is that? I don’t care of you are broke or rich we all have challenges. Just how we can take care of them varies based on our faith and finances.

I say ‘Let it Rain’ in my life because it’s only temporary. I know there are good things that can happen to steer our journey a new direction when it rains. You can’t see it now but on the other side of it all you can and you are thankful you were able to get through it too. I look forward to seeing bluer skies, the dust settling and all that smog gone after each thunderstorm in my life.

As a mentor of mine says, “It’s only temporary”. As you face these challenges just tell yourself it’s only temporary and I can get through anything that’s temporary. That illness that has hit someone you love is only temporary, that challenge at your job that is making you work so many extra hours so you can’t see your family, it’s temporary. Those finances that seem to be larger than what you bring in right now it’s just temporary.

We can all face something temporary because we know it will go away soon enough or change. Let it Rain – it’s only temporary.

If the words to this blog have helped you in some way or would help someone else please share it or leave a comment below. Tell me about a situation in your life that you felt was overwhelming but was only temporary.

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Cherish Those You Love

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Time passes quickly and is short so cherish those you love. Make memories with your friends and family. Don’t say one of these days I’ll visit or do – whatever that may be. Find a way now to spend some quality time just loving your family and friends.

Dealing with loss is an emotional struggle that does not go away but does improve over time. I lost my mother five years ago and though I know in my heart that she is no longer in constant pain or struggling with life’s challenges, health wise or financial, it is difficult some days to not miss her like crazy. Certain holidays can be rather difficult to get through without shedding a tear for her since I miss her so very much.

No matter how much you prepare you still aren’t ready when the time comes to lose someone that has been sick for a long time. Currently in my life there are several individuals that I love that are having some health issues. The age range is from young adult to a senior adult. I don’t wish to lose these people that I love but I can’t do anything about it either.

Make the most out of your time with your loved ones. Create memories that you can look back on and that give you a smile or a sense of true unconditional love. Drop the small stuff that is causing conflict. Even big stuff when put in the right context isn’t all that important over time. What is important is letting others in your life know that you love them, are proud of them and want all their dreams to come true.

Never go to bed angry with someone if you can prevent it. Everyone wants to be loved, missed and to be important to someone else. What can you do today to make someone in your life feel loved and important? Can you make a phone call? Can you send and email? Could you send a text? Mail a letter or greeting card? How about go for a visit? These things only take a moment in the grand scheme of life.

Be sure to tell those important to you how you feel, how much they mean to you and how blessed you are to have them in your life. Time is precious and every moment counts.

Make some memories to cherish and have a blessed week!

Share with someone else or comment below if you have a special memory of someone you love and cherish.

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Six Months

The months passing by this year rather quickly.

The months passing by this year rather quickly.

Can you believe it, it’s already been six months in 2015. Time sure is passing by quickly and seems to do so even more as you get older. This is a good time of year to look at the previous six months and analyze if you have made progress towards your goals and dreams. If not, why? What can you do differently so the next six months will move your forward with them?

Do you need to work on scheduling your time better? Do you need to say ‘no’ to people that want all your free time for other things? Do you need to learn something before you can move forward? Do you need to purchase something first? Do you need help with motivation or encouragement? Do you need to make smaller changes to reach your dreams?

Every one of those questions can be changed or dealt with so that you will move towards your goals and dreams instead of staying the same or going backwards. Making changes in your life so that you can move forward can be small changes. Some small changes could be setting up a family night or date night on your calendar each week so your family doesn’t think you are working all the time and ignoring them.

We all want to help others but sometimes we have to say ‘no’ in order to not put our own dreams and passions on the back burner. Volunteering for every little thing at church may not be the best solution for you. Taking on projects for your family may need to be spaced out and scheduled differently. Just remember you are the one in charge of your time.

Some things take more time than you want them too in order to be done right. Writing a book for example might only take you a month to write but then you have to edit the book and do some rewrites in order to polish it up so that it’s a great read. Artwork can take time as you plan out the piece you wish to do, do the sketch of the idea, work out the details, color palette you wish to use, then doing the work of the painting itself.

Evaluate your goals and see what you need to change in order to move them forward in the next six months of this year. Don’t get discouraged as you move forward. It’s like losing weight, when we start we have such a large goal and then we break that goal down into smaller sections in order to meet the goal. Even if you had a setback with losing weight you don’t just stop because you didn’t reach your goal, you adjust and keep going. Losing 20 pounds in a year is better than nothing if you were trying to lose 50 pounds. Now you only have to lose 30 and you can break that down into smaller amounts so that it doesn’t seem so overwhelming.

Stay motivated, schedule your goals, focus on the small steps and the next six months will fly by and you will have accomplished more than you think. Have a blessed week.

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Birthdays and Time

My birthday Godiva Chocolate Cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory - Yum!

My birthday Godiva Chocolate Cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory – Yum!

I recently had my Birthday and spent it with my family where we had an amazing time together. I was blessed that my family went to the movies with me, we ate at an awesome restaurant that had some fabulous desserts and I received wonderful gifts and cards that expressed their love for me. It was a great day and even though I’m getting older I realized that the age doesn’t matter, it was being able to spend that day with people that love me and I love just creating some memories from our time.

When we are young we not only tell everyone our age but we even do it with ‘and a half’ added because we can’t wait to get to the next age. As we get a bit older it’s those milestone birthdays that we look forward to like 16, 18 and even 21. These are all great dates that we will remember the rest of our lives.

Then we hit the age of 30 and we say, whoa, wait a minute here, where did all these years go. I can’t possibly be 30 already. Before you know it you are saying that again at 40, perhaps even 50 and 60. I don’t know about you but even though I’m in my late 40’s now, I still feel like I’m in my 20’s. Life hasn’t gone by as fast as the numbers are telling me because I don’t feel that age yet.

It’s taken time to learn things and truly become ‘mature’ or ‘responsible’ other than the basics. We start families and add people to our lives that mean a great deal to us, yet it just all goes by so quickly. Before you know it your first-born child is 25 and facing all these things too. This cycle of life is amazing in how it works, but it also shows us that time is the same for us all and we need to make memories, work for our true dreams and passions and live life to the fullest each day.

My birthday made me realize how blessed I am, that I have a daughter that is an adult now, that I’ve been married to a wonderful man for over 30 years and that I have some amazing friends. Learn to live your life where you take advantage of every special moment. That first step or word, day of school, kiss, award, dance, birthdays, anniversaries, picnics, vacations, holidays, graduations, success, failure, weight loss, dream come true and more.

These moments are your life memories that bring you joy, comfort and love. Learn now that those breaths of time are what make you who you are and what give your life true meaning.

Leave a comment on how you are learning to capture these breaths of time and keep them close to your heart and share this so that others will do the same. Have a blessed week!

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Spooky Light and Routines

Spooky Desk Lamp and Evernote App for Smart Phones

Spooky Desk Lamp and Evernote App for Smart Phones

When you move into a new place there are sometimes things that happen you can’t control, such as a spooky light that we turn off and it would come back on even as we were sitting there watching it. Then of course there has to be a practical reason for such an event and so the search begins.

Like most things in life there can be practical reasons for things happening, but sometimes things happen with no explanation at all. In the case of my desk lamp it was from a wireless Internet plug that had been put into the wall at one end of my office and it caused my lamp to go on at the other end. Whew, no ghosts in the new place to contend with at this point.

Now that we are in the new place we can get back into a regular routine. I noticed over the course of this move that having no routine, a list of things you regularly do that don’t fit in to this chaotic time can be stressful. Thoughts like did I pay this or that bill, did I bill my client, should I toss this or keep it, man my poor car needs a bath so bad, did I lock the door to the old place? All of these things creep into your thoughts when you can’t even find a pen to write something down.

I find I do better with a schedule or routine in my daily life. I know that I need to sit and write for 4 hours on Mondays. I know that I need to go over my finances every Thursday. I know I go buy my groceries every Sunday. I know I do laundry every Wednesday. These types of routines make life flow smoothly but when you are in the midst of change and moving those routines get ignored for the short time and you feel off and stressed because you know you should be doing something else instead.

My suggestion is to hang in there, put as much of the things you remember or have thoughts about in your Evernote App on your smart phone and check it regularly so you don’t think you are dropping the ball when you are making changes in your life. It will help you not be as stressed about your day-to-day items while dealing with the major change in your life that can be trying in and of itself.

Stress is not good for one’s health or life in general. You don’t wish to take it out on your family either while going through it. Manage it as best you can by using tools like Evernote or things to do list you can check daily, add to and take off as you get things done. I know it has helped me in these recent weeks of moving and my stress levels were low because of it.

Please leave a comment on how you handle stress during a chaotic time in life and share this with someone else if you think it could help them. Have a blessed day!

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Overcome and Do

Overcome & Do (ACT) Action Changes Things

Overcome & Do (ACT) Action Changes Things

I recently heard my mentor talk about what have you overcome that was holding you back from doing your goals and dreams? He also said will you be in the same place at Christmas of this year that you were last year? Well, both of those questions are quite poignant and must be answered with honesty.

To start with I have overcome a couple things in the last year that were major hurdles for me that I didn’t even realize were until I just started working towards my goals and dreams. One of those hurdles was myself. I was someone that thought positively until something went wrong and then it was ‘whoa is me’ for a while and then time would pass and nothing would have changed due to that attitude. You also tend to ask ‘why’ a lot when you are like that.

The other statement, will you be where you were last year at the end of this year? No, I will not. I have learned that the art of doing changes everything in your life. Those goals or dreams start looking within reach because you are doing things to move yourself forward towards them. These two questions caused me to reflect and I can honestly say that I won’t be where I was at the end of this year compared to last year.

Here are some steps I took to make a difference in my life.

  1. I focused on what I was truly passionate about…my photography and my writing. I didn’t allow other things to sneak in there and cause me to divert my attention to them.
  2. I wrote down a list of what I needed to do for each area and began doing tasks to move me forward. (Such as this website for my photography.)
  3. I began doing. Writing isn’t something you say I want to write a book and you just sit down and are done in one session. Writing 100,000 words for a book takes time that you have to be willing to commit to each day of each week even if it was only 500 words.
  4. I took my calendar of an already busy schedule and planned in times to take photographs and planned in my time to write. My family, were aware of these times and were helpful to keep me on task when things ran over into my time.
  5. I learned that even if I didn’t feel creative I went and worked on my goals anyway and while in the midst of starting I would find inspiration to move forward and make true progress.

Accomplishing a goal or dream doesn’t take just thinking about it, you have to actually do something. Decide what you wish to do and create a list of what it will take and begin doing. You will be excited with your progress, you will be doing instead of talking about it, you will inspire others that are close to you to know that these dreams are coming true for you. Turn your 80% of dreaming into 80% of doing and only 20% of dreaming and life will become what you have always wanted it to be.

If you found this blog helpful then please share it with your friends or loved ones that could use similar inspiration. Leave a comment below if you have a method you use that helps you reach your goals and dreams.

Have a blessed day!

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Christmas Movies – Scrooge

 

Albert Finney Scrooge The Musical

   Albert Finney Scrooge The Musical

A scene from the movie with Scrooge as Father Christmas.

A scene from the movie with Scrooge as Father Christmas.

During the holidays I like to watch a few of the Christmas movies each year to help me feel a bit more festive during this time. But no matter what I always watch a version of Scrooge. My favorite version is Scrooge (the musical) starring Albert Finney that was released in 1970.

No matter who you are you can relate to the initial Scrooge that is hard working, focused on responsibilities and ignores the more fun and joyous things he could experience over the course of his life. We all get caught up in the day-to-day rut of making a living and dealing with our responsibilities. We have budgets, jobs with overtime and deadlines, children to juggle, family events, a spouse and then on top of it all we throw in Thanksgiving and Christmas.

This race we all run needs some balance. In Scrooge thanks to the Spirits that worked through the night to show Scrooge the error of his ways they manage to find the kid in him. The one that does want to have fun, find love, be nice, and even enjoy Christmas with his family. He wants to be a good guy but seems to far gone to feel the need to change in his later years.

Well, he does change and he does good things for those in his life. We can do the same, by scheduling time for our family, time for our spouse, time for family events, around our jobs and passions in life. If it’s a priority to you, then you will make it happen.

Think about how in 2015 you can have a weekly date night to get close with your spouse or significant other, have a weekly family night to spend with just your kids or relatives. You need also a time for yourself, a time to dream, a time to relax, a time to fill your soul with the passion you have for that dream or goal. No more settling for in this coming year, be more than you ever thought possible by taking one step at a time, one day at a time towards something greater.

Stretch yourself and set some goals that you have been afraid to try and try them anyway. Conquer the fear in your life. I know I have overcome several in 2014 and I have many more to slay in 2015. Join me this 2015 to find your passion and conquer your fears to make them a reality. I know you can. I believe in you.

Have a wonderful and blessed day!

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Gift of Gratitude

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Gratitude: (noun) the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful.

There are so many things in my life right now that I’m totally grateful for, one being my husband and daughter, these two people I feel were given to me by God. My husband was this computer nerd that didn’t seem to look at a girl unless it was the name he called a computer. We became close friends and started sharing and talking about our childhood the pain and all, the future and the dreams of what life could be, and then the life with each other. He is truly my soul mate and I feel he was a gift to me because I didn’t want to get married at all due to my childhood. God had other plans for me.

As for my daughter, she is the miracle. I was told I couldn’t have children once I got married and we tried and tried with no luck. My body just wasn’t going to have anything to do with getting pregnant. Then 5 years later after one doctor visit, one pill for one day that made me so very ill that I couldn’t take after that, the miracle of 30 days later I was pregnant. My daughter is a gift and a true blessing. She is an amazing person and I had a part of creating that young lady. God definitely gave me a gift worth treasuring with her.

Other things I’m grateful for are my talents as a graphic designer that led me to my current job that provides income to my family. I’m grateful for shelter over our heads, food for our tummies and our bills paid each month. I’m grateful for my extended family that I don’t get to see that often but stay in touch thanks to texting and social media. I’m thankful for old friends that have continued to be part of my day to day life and haven’t decided to step away for whatever reason.

I’m also grateful for new friends that share similar passions that give of themselves and make my life enriched with them within it. I’m grateful for the Noah University coaching I’m a part of that has impacted my life in a new way, clarified my purpose, allowed me to dream again, showed me how to make my dreams come true and for the leadership that authentically share of themselves with those of us in this program.

I’m thankful for God because without him my path would not have taken the direction that it has to lead me to these wonderful things that are in my life now. I’m thankful for the doors he has opened and the ones he has closed to keep me on a path that he wishes for my life. I’m thankful for those I can inspire and give hope to through my photography and writing, which God also gave to me.

I hope you and your families are together sharing love and blessings on this Thanksgiving holiday. Have a blessed day!

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A Little Rain

A wooden bridge in an Autumn forest.

A wooden bridge in an Autumn forest.

The last few days we have had a little bit of rain in our desert area. It is something very much needed so I love getting it after so many days of sunshine during the summer months. The rain reminds me of a fresh start, replenishing living things and a new season of change ahead.

The rain also allows for the air and the living things around us to get a bath and fresh drink of water to help with the changes of fall. The colors on the trees, the different types of flowers that bloom in the fall, the plants and vegetables that grow in the cooler months, all give new life to photographs in a fresh season. Opportunities of new things to photograph avail themselves with each season, but the colors of fall always let me know that the holidays are around the corner.

I hope if you are someone that loves taking photographs that you will use the fall months as a time to experiment and find new things to bring to life in one of your images. I know I love doing the same and I also enjoy knowing that I get to see family and extended family in the months to come.

Let the colors of nature move you! Enjoy!

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